This post was going to be called “self care tips for new moms” – i.e., women who don’t have lots of time and money and a babysitter to go treat themselves without a miniature person hanging off them. However, after writing it, I realized these self care tips can be done by literally anyone! You don’t need to have two hours of free time and $100 to spend to make yourself feel a little better. So whether it’s at home, at work, or traveling on the road, make use of these 5 tips to make yourself feel more like “you”.
1. Get outside
This is as simple as it sounds – just.go.outside. Regardless of the weather, the fresh air will reenergize you!
- Sit on your front porch
- Lay in the grass in the backyard
- Walk around the block a few times while at work
- Walk to the coffeeshop or grocery store instead of driving
I do these by myself and when I’m with Axel and Max, when I’m at home and when I’m at the office. Sometimes I listen to music, sometimes I scroll on my phone, sometimes I read a book, and sometimes I sit and bounce Max in silence. Fresh air always helps, even if it’s cold, cloudy, or raining.
2. Ask for help
Find one item on your to do list and ask someone to help you do it or delegate it completely. I tend to let myself get wayyy too overwhelmed before asking for help. Next time you feel like you’re about to bubble over, find one thing on your to do list and ask your significant other/spouse/friend/coworker to do it for you.
Sidenote: don’t feel guilty about this! We are all human and can only handle so much. Don’t feel guilty about doing what is right for you in the moment. Also, don’t expect to have to pay that person back. Things will all even out eventually I’m sure, but real relationships aren’t “I’m helping you out now so I can get something in return later.”
3. Give yourself an at home spa service
Light a candle and turn on some soothing tunes, then file or buff your nails, give yourself a mani pedi, or put on a sheet mask for 15 minutes. I treat myself to these little things while Max is napping some days and I can’t go get them done professionally. However, if you do have the time, money, and energy to go get them done, totally do it! But it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. My favorite at home spa products include:
- Orly bonder base coat – this makes my manicures last SO long, and I am really hard on my hands!
- Seche Vite top coat – when paired with the Orly base coat, my manis have lasted two weeks!
- Sephora face masks – I like the Lotus for moisturizing and Orchid for anti-aging.
4. Put out some fresh flowers
Whether you buy some from Trader Joe’s, cut some from your own garden, or get some delivered, fresh flowers always liven up the space and make you feel better. It can be a whole bouquet (TJ’s has some great ones for only $4) or simply a few stems in a bud vase. Re-cut the stems and replace the water every 2-3 days and they will last a good week to two!
If you want to support a cool company local to Milwaukee, check out Flowers for Dreams. They create bouquets from locally crafted flowers, hand deliver them via bike, and every purchase benefits a local charity. Stop and smell the roses while helping the community!
5. Treat yourself to a cup/glass of _____
Here’s another one that can be done at home and at work – depending on the beverage of choice and time of day. Pull out your favorite mug and have a hot cup of coffee or tea (add some flavored syrup and frothed milk to feel fancy), a cold beer, a nice glass of wine, heck even a mug cake! Keep some ingredients on hand to turn these into “special” occasions:
- Favorite coffee mug – we all have one, plus you need one to keep at work!
- Coffee syrup – no this isn’t paleo, but you can treat yourself once in a while!
- Fudgy double chocolate paleo mug cake – this one is SO GOOD, and there are a ton of other recipes on Pinterest.
Bonus: Do something for someone else
This is not another “to do” to add to your list. It’s something that will make you stop thinking about yourself! Sometimes we just get too wrapped up in our own lives. You will feel so much better and doing something for someone else will help put your “problems” into perspective.
- That friend that just had a baby? Offer to stuff and address her baby announcements for her while you two chat on the couch.
- That friend whose significant other/mother/father just had surgery? Offer to bring a meal, do a load of laundry or cut their grass for them.
- That friend that just moved? Offer to help move boxes, paint walls, or clean before they unpack.
- That friend who is feeling under the weather? Offer to bring over some soup (it doesn’t matter if it is canned or boxed…it’s the thought that counts) and crackers.
These are the things I do currently to stay sane and recharge…what do you do? How do you treat yourself?