I mentioned our Family Business Meeting in my budget post a few weeks ago, and I received a few questions about what the meeting entails and how it helps us. We adapted the format from one we found on Marriage365 and it has worked great for us. We spend 30-60 minutes every Sunday night discussing the topics below, focusing primarily on the upcoming week.
We look at our calendars for the upcoming week and discuss everyone’s schedule:
- Garrett’s work schedule – day travel, overnight travel, work from home days.
- Max’s schedule – doctor’s appointments, babysitters.
- Axel’s schedule – doggy daycare, vet appointments.
- Al’s schedule – appointments, girlfriend/me time.
We also look 2-3 weeks out to see if there are any upcoming events we need to prepare for – schedule appointments, make travel arrangements, etc – and decide who will complete each task.
We review our Quickbooks reports for the month to date and discuss any modifications we need to make with our spending to try to hit our budget by the end of the month. We also talk about major upcoming expenses – how much we anticipate a cost to be, when it will hit our bank accounts, and how we will pay for it. We also create our monthly budgets for a few months out – for example, we are currently creating our monthly budgets for Q1 2018 now in November.
To Dos / What I Need Help With This Week
During this discussion, we talk about major to dos, especially those with a deadline or those we need help with to complete. Many times the tasks on this list correlate with items on the Schedule and/or Budget topics. A few examples of recent to dos include:
- Get last will/living will/power of attorney notarized & distribute copies
- Fund Max’s Edvest account
- Call American Family re: insurance bill question
- Schedule dentist appointment
- Rent baby equipment for Colorado ski trip (mountaintot.com)
- Submit receipts for flex spending account
Date Night / Sexy Time
Even with a baby, we try to have one date night a week. For the past 6 months, many of these date nights have been at home after Max is asleep, but we still make it a point to make it a “date”. We try to look nice, light some candles, have a good dinner (whether it is steak or Thai takeout), open a bottle of wine, and enjoy each other’s company. We pick a day and time and put it on the calendar so we have something to look forward to! We also talk about “sexy time”, because let’s face it, having a newborn can cramp your style. When a baby needs something and they need it now, it can take time away from your spouse, so it is up to YOU to find time for your spouse. Stay connected and stay in love! The more in love, happy, and stronger your relationship is, the better example you can set for your kids.
Is There Anything I Need to Apologize For?
I don’t always like this topic (lol). We take turns telling one another anything that bothered us the past week and we take turns apologizing. No interrupting, no arguing, just explaining and apologizing. And then we move on! This topic is great to have on the agenda each week because we can discuss things on Sunday when we are not feeling emotional in the moment they happen. We don’t get to this topic every week (sometimes we run out of time), but make sure to cover it if one of us has something to tell the other.
60 Second Blessing
In the 60 second blessing, you look your spouse in the eyes and tell them why you are grateful for them and what you love about them for a whole minute. We don’t get to this topic every week (but we do share three things we’re each grateful for every night before bed) but we leave it on the agenda and try to get to it if we have time.
There you have it! Do you have a family business meeting every week? Every day? What other ways have you found to stay on top of things with your spouse?